Times they are a changing…

It was too hot for black!

They say “a change is as good as a rest” and during this lockdown I’ve changed in a number of ways. Both physically and mentally, and to be honest I’m not sure it’s been that much of a rest.


The stress of not being able to see family and friends has weighed heavy on me. Video calls have been my saviour.

I’ve dyed my beard blue. The responses have been interesting and I think I’m going to try some different colours.

But changes don’t come easy and often we resist it. During this lockdown we’ve had no choice but to change though. Change is actually good for us as it exposes us to new experiences and who knows where that could lead.

Making those changes can be a difficult process so here’s few tips that might help you.

Identify and understand what you want to change

What do you want to change and why do you want to change it? You need to be able to answer those questions before you even consider making a change. Does what you’re changing add value to your life in any way?

Ask for Assistance

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again and I’ll probably be saying it again and again and again – there is nothing wrong with saying you need help and then asking for it! Think about this thing you want to change, how you’re going to do it and who can help you do that. A support network is essential!

Drop the waste!



Look at what you want to do and how you’re going to do it. Now take a second a look at your list. Have you added anything that really you don’t need. Are there any steps you can bypass? If you know you can go from A to D without going through B and C then do it!

Ditch the neigh sayers!

Have you told someone you’re going to make a change and they’ve mocked you or sarcastically said “Oh good luck with that!” Maybe they’ve told you shouldn’t bother or how they tried it and it didn’t work. Get rid of them. You don’t need that mood hoover in your life. You can do this!

Small Steps

Don’t try and do it all at once. When you’re learning a foreign language you don’t have one lessons suddenly you’re fluent! Take small and steady steps and you’ll get there.

I’ve never been able to work out who “they” are.

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  1. Susan Lindsay says:

    Thanks Rob. I’ve been thinking recently of the the first visit Virgina Satir made to Ireland to give a workshop to early Family Therapy outliers during my first pregnancy. Her zig-zig line representing the ups and downs we experience during change, drawn between stasis and future new ground stayed with me in the first chaotic weeks of caring for a new baby, particularly when I felt desperate. That was forty years ago. It’s seen me through the chaos of quite a few transitions since then! I keep having to choose even smaller steps but it’s amazing how they add up. Best wishes to you, Rob.

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